What is the communication cycle? When a person uses verbal language to interact with another person, a communication cycle is initiated. The mere use of language does not constitute communication. If a person was speaking nonstop in a room without anyone to hear him, no communication is taking place. Genuine communication requires a speaker and a subject. When you are analyzing the effectiveness of an interaction, you can measure the [...]

How can you create better and more achievable goals? Setting goals is the first step in creating the dynamic blueprint of a truly successful life. Goals are the coordinates that help build your map – without them, you can get sidetracked and delayed indefinitely. The real difficulty with setting goals is the fact that not all goals are created equal and having the wrong ones in place can get you [...]

(Second of a series) How can your mind help you succeed? In our last post we talked about the outcome frame and the first step to shift to this newer and more productive mental process. We learned that the mind needs conscious guidance from us if we want to it to be helpful and effective in solving problems. Goal-setting is actually a sequential process of solving different problems. For example, [...]

(First of a series) How can you train the mind to focus on outcomes? The human brain is a truly amazing analytical tool. At any point in time, our brains are constantly filtering mundane information and picking out sensory inputs that are important enough to reach our conscious and subconscious minds. Our RAS, or reticular activating system, is always in the background of our minds, sifting through ordinary sensory input [...]

When Believing Means Seeing Why do people see the world differently? Imagine this for a brief moment: a road accident took place one clear afternoon. You were standing near a pedestrian crossing when the accident took place. Three other people saw the accident, too. When the police came to investigate what happened, you were asked by an officer if you could give an eyewitness account. You give your story and [...]

(Second of a series) How are values created? In the first part of this special series, we learned that values are the biggest motivators in our lives. Our values system influences the formation of our subconscious beliefs which have a direct impact on how we think and act in different situations. In NLP, the first step in changing old values or creating new ones is extracting or eliciting them from [...]

(First of a series) Can people live without values? We often hear old folks complaining that the current generation “has no values” and that we are all somewhat doomed because of this decided lack of a values system. Well, personal opinions aside, this statement can never be technically true. Why? Because everyone has values. Modern civilization would crumble in a matter of months if we didn’t have values systems in [...]

(Second of a series) “If men define situations as real, they are real in their consequences” The Thomas Theorem by W.S. & D.I. Thomas In our last blog post, we talked about the importance of beliefs and how your belief system can spell the difference between excelling and enjoying new things and being trapped in a small box of limiting beliefs. In today’s discussion I’m going to reveal how you [...]

(First of a series) How do beliefs affect our lives? A belief is defined as “something that we hold to be completely true.” A person’s beliefs are the subconscious guideposts that shape how a person thinks, decides and acts in different situations. Our subconscious mind is responsible for forming and enforcing our beliefs. The conscious mind on the other hand, is the armored sentinel that makes sure that our subconscious [...]

How do people react to success or failure? People commonly assess their lives in terms of how successful they are in achieving different goals. When you succeed at something, you feel proud of how resourceful and smart you were in achieving your goal. However, when something doesn’t work out as planned, we usually feel devastated and stuck. This feeling of despair is rooted in how people utilize their experiences. In [...]